• … positive reflection or victimization

    March 30, 2015

    Last night, Fabien, Nic, Sophie and  I had dinner at Hakkasan Dubai with Saleem, Robin and Tom to celebrate their 10 year anniversary working at naseba.

    We had a great time looking back over the 10 years and remembering all the crazy stories that have happened over their adventurous careers.  Most of the crazy stories I didn’t even know about!

    We discussed my “Ode to Marcus Evans..” blogs, and all the super bitches who have come and gone …
    I told the guys about how I was once a super bitch … similar to the others, but I explained how reflecting on my mistakes enabled me to climb higher because of this positive reflection.

    Today’s post is my favorite blog, one that I wrote back in 2008.
    I re-post it every 18 months or so.  Even if you know the story and have read this blog before, I encourage you to read it again, and reflect…

    It is impossible to explain how much being “reflective” instead of being a “victim” has positively impacted my life.
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    Loyalty vs disloyalty is a theme I have discussed throughout this blog.

    Some people have commented how I was “disloyal” to my previous company…

    Therefore, I wish to explore the root of this “disloyalty.”

    For this entry and discussion on “disloyalty” … I am going to use myself as the example.
    The purpose is to try and positively, influence anyone who might be able to relate to my story.

    In fact, we can ALL relate to this discussion, whether you work for naseba or not.

    I did not quit my previous company because I was looking for “greener grass…”
    I did not quit to secretly, start my own company.

    I did not quit.
    I was pushed out because I had become a “super bitch.”

    “Super bitch” is a theme which I have hammered throughout this blog … and in my opinion — it’s the “root” to disloyalty.

    Like many people in this industry … when I joined my previous company in Tokyo it was my first real job.

    I started to sell very quickly…

    with my quick deals in a under performing office came some sort of “power” within the office.

    It did not matter that I had never been a manager, thus had zero management experience …I knew better than the boss.

    It did not matter that I had never been in the corporate world, thus did not understand company procedures and protocol … I knew it all.

    With my sales success came a “superficial power” within the office — at the time, I was in my early to mid-20’s and I didn’t know how to handle the quick success and big pay checks.

    Sincerely, I wanted the best for the office and the company.

    I was a very loyal and a sincere guy, but with my sales success; then my teams sales success; and ultimately my offices success — I became uncontrollably, arrogant.

    My Chairman met me once a month, and naively/ungratefully, I completely… took his time for granted.
    Like a spoiled baby — I expected the Chairman to take the time to meet me …

    International travel … I traveled the world and I took it completely for granted.

    “all companies send their staff around the world and put them up in 5 star hotels??”

    childlike expectations….

    I expected my boss to take my calls … and I called whenever I wanted.

    I expected my boss to reply to my emails and I hammered him with emails whenever I wanted — often suggesting to him on how to do his job.

    I was probably one of the top talents in the company, and (arrogantly) I thought I knew everything.

    Upon reflection, being the best sales man allowed me to get promoted to GM quickly …. get a nice salary, as well as rewarded with office override, bonus commissions etc.

    In one year, my basic salary was increased by more than 1000%

    But I just expected this…
    I just expected to have my salary raised…
    I just expected to receive a bonus for doing my job very well.
    Even when I stopped performing at the same level when I earned my salary increases

    I just expected…

    With my success and large pay checks  I became “unmanageable” … I thought I knew more than my multi-millionaire Chairman.

    After all, I was talented…
    I was great at closing deals … training young kids to sell, developing leaders for the company and building teams…

    But the truth:   I was a nobody.

    I became difficult to manage.
    And towards the end of my employment with that company, I spoke disrespectfully to the Chairman on the phone and via email.

    Many people reading this entry can change the roles in this blog –from the old Scott and Marcus– to you and your current boss — whether that boss is at naseba or not.

    No matter how good you might think you are in your role  – do not fall in the trap of believing you are more important than you really are.

    I am proud of what we are achieving at naseba … but there is NO WAY I would have developed/learned/matured and climbed higher if I had not first reflected and ultimately, changed.

    Upon reflection I see it so clearly … Marcus never let me down.  Not once.

    I am the one who let him down.

    Many times in life there are two paths one can choose when we fall down  — reflect on ones mistakes on what led to us falling down, and then climb higher.  Or do what most people do,  be a victim and blame your fall on someone or something, and fall down further.

    I took the road less traveled, and that has made all the difference.…

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